re: #1, if the massages help with your overall well-being and keep the pain away, it's not "fussing over", it's "preventive medicine". I mean, I wouldn't put them in the same class as mani-pedis or getting perms or something.

I just found out that CARTI offers all their radiation and chemo patients massages once a week. They pay to have the masseuse come in, so Mom got her first-ever professional massage last week. Doctors wouldn't pay for patients to have massages if massages were mere primping and fussing. You know?

Shoot, I need to make some resolutions, even vague ones. And here it is the 3rd already. Tsk.