I hear you. I do. And I have run into the attitude you're talking about headlong, and I understand you frustration with it.
What I'm saying, is that my solution to it is to look steadfastly forward. When someone with an axe to grind comes at me in a rage over my skin colour, I try to talk to them about what they are, and could be doing to improve the balance, for themselves, and their children. And then I tell them what I am doing to improve the balance. And I try not to let them get into games of Top My Trauma, whether personally, or racially, telling them straight out that the sins of any race are too great for any man or woman to answer to, and if things are going to get better, they'll get that way because of people thinking about the future, not the past.
Some don't like it, but I've found that they tend not to stick around once they learn that I won't accept the guilt they want to hit me with. Because people like that are usually not willing to give up their treasured feeling of oppression, and actually work it out. (Yes, generalization there, and so inherently flawed, however also containing much validity.)
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What I'm saying, is that my solution to it is to look steadfastly forward. When someone with an axe to grind comes at me in a rage over my skin colour, I try to talk to them about what they are, and could be doing to improve the balance, for themselves, and their children. And then I tell them what I am doing to improve the balance. And I try not to let them get into games of Top My Trauma, whether personally, or racially, telling them straight out that the sins of any race are too great for any man or woman to answer to, and if things are going to get better, they'll get that way because of people thinking about the future, not the past.
Some don't like it, but I've found that they tend not to stick around once they learn that I won't accept the guilt they want to hit me with. Because people like that are usually not willing to give up their treasured feeling of oppression, and actually work it out. (Yes, generalization there, and so inherently flawed, however also containing much validity.)