Is it just me

[silverthorne]

...Or is there something wildly inappropriate about a guy (who is already in trouble because he keeps messing up), bringing in flowers for a girl he wants to date (and who also works in the same department), as well as the mother of his boss?

I mean, is this just me going 'this is a really dumb thing to do', coupled with 'who's ass are you trying to lick?'...or is this considered ok?

I mean, it's not even like he was careful about it, either, you know? (I stay pretty unconcious about these things, just because, but it's pretty hard to ignore a guy with armfuls of chocolate and flowers coming into the area and then leaving the offerings in plain sight on the desks).

And I will note the stuff he got for the dating potential got stuck and left in the employee refridgerator...

Just...bzuh?

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[paradisacorbasi.livejournal.com]

If it wasn't the workplace, I'd say it was a sweet gesture. Otherwise, given he's already in trouble, I wouldn't have suggested walking in with it...it would've been more like have it delivered anonymously.

And clearly he didn't do the research. Either she doesn't like him or she doesn't like the chocolates.

[silverthorne.livejournal.com]

As far as the workplace thing goes, I wouldn't have a problem with it personally, except that one of the rules is no dating between personel working in the same department. No family or room-mates either. So even if she were interested in him and he got her attention, we would have to let one of them go--either to another department, or let og of them completely if they didn't find a job on their own. He's courting disaster, here. And since he's the one that's been messing up, guess who'd be asked to leave?

On the personal level, I think it's all one sided, from what I understand. He's already asked her out a few times and been told 'no'.

Also, our boss knows what's going on, so, you know...yeah. She's pretty easy going, but she's not going to have a lot of room in this if someone else notices and complains, you know?

[paradisacorbasi.livejournal.com]

Oh, geez, that's practically sexual harassment waiting to happen.

On the other hand maybe he's stupid like a fox and is trying to get fired.

[silverthorne.livejournal.com]

I dunno. Considering it's clear, written down, by-the-book policy we're talking about, I don't think he can claim unemployment benefits if they fire him over it. And they'll go through the entire process anyway--warnings, talking to the boss, talking to HR etc, before he's let go. It's actually relaly hard to get fired from here--you'd have to screw up rather spectacularly and more than once.

The hospital is very careful with things like this for the very simple reason that people will try ways like this to collect umemployment, and the hospital has no interest in shelling out more financial resources than it absolutely has to. They'll outwait him, or just transfer him and let him quit if he doesn't like where he ends up, you know?

He's mid-twenties. It could be he just hasn't gotten a good grip on employment smarts just yet. And in this economy, that's not a good lack to possess.

[rebl1969.livejournal.com]

the stuff he got for the dating potential got stuck and left in the employee refridgerator...

Hahahaha!!

Loser.

[silverthorne.livejournal.com]

Yeah. I've gotten confirmation that the girl is definitely not interested, too. So he's really barking up the wrong tree here.

Someone needs to put a bug in this guy's ear that he's at work and not at a singles bar before he really gets nailed for it (and yes, I suggested to boss lady that she might want to mention it before anyone else does).

...sad thing is, other than that and being generally...careless, I guess, he's a nice guy. I mean, I curse his name every morning when I run into his mistakes (and trash left on the shelves), but as a person, he's okay. And people need their jobs, but...

Er...yeah.

Um...

Gah?

[rebl1969.livejournal.com]

Well, then, that's what verbal warnings are for. Trash on the shelves? In a hospital?? Blegh!
Even nice people can be incompetent. And if he's even marginally intelligent, he can learn competency. Does he just not care that much?

[silverthorne.livejournal.com]

He's mid to young twenties. Rare is the youngling that cares that much, you know?

(I will note that 'trash' in this case=boxes he just can't be bothered to take off the shelf once he's emptied them for the most part. Not the stuff you throw in the bin.)

We'll see what happens.

[rebl1969.livejournal.com]

Having managed teenagers before, I says yes indeed.