O...kay, then.

[silverthorne]

Got to talk to Dad a little more tonight. Seems Mom wanted my address--not to let me know herself about my grandmother--but because the insurance company needs it so they can send me....something.

So...I don't know. I guess...the grandparents set up a policy for me? I dunno. As far as I knew, I'd already gotten my 'share' years ago, which were the rings that were lost to the ex, and the collection of bears my grandmother had (also mostly gone, fancy that), and which was the only thing I actually asked for when I was still sort of talking to them and she asked me what I wanted. (Note that I actually didn't want the rings--grandmother just didn't want my mom to get hold of them and sent them despite me telling her several times NOT to. Not that that did much good.)

Anyhow, guess we'll see when the legal documents find me.

Also; guess this means Mom didn't end up being executor of the estate after all, if she isn't calling the shots.

And a side note, this is the most I've ever referred to this grandmother as 'grandmother'. Just to give you an idea of how screwed the family schematics were on that side, the grandparents wanted me calling them by their first names rather than 'confuse' me by referring to one set as Grandma and Grandpa 'C' (Dad's parents) and the other side as Grandma and Grandpa Magee. Which is...what everyone else suggested. Seemed if they couldn't just be grandparents, they didn't want it.

Okay, going to stop talking now, because this is actually...kinda pissing me off.

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[rebl1969.livejournal.com]

Maybe you were named beneficiary?
*crosses fingers for good news for you*

[silverthorne.livejournal.com]

I was named something, that's for sure, since it isn't Mom tossing 'my share' at me.

I'm of two minds here, really. A good part of me is all 'I don't want it. I don't care if it is a huge-ass chunk of money' (Which it might be--this was the 'well off' side of the family, after all.).

...And then the practical part of me is 'yeah, but if it's money...well, you could stand to have more than your 11.60 an hour job income for a little while...'

Gah. :/

I hate it when personal morals butt up against, you know, reality. :/

[silverthorne.livejournal.com]

Then again the mediator part is now going 'Well, if you don't really want it, but you think you might need it, put it in a savings account and let it brew. Because someday, it's probably a given that your mom will need medical help and a place that can take care of her when she's old enough...and you are all she has in that regards.'

So...maybe that's what I'll do.

[rebl1969.livejournal.com]

Well, this is all hypothetical since you haven't gotten the letter yet, but if your grandmother for instance named you beneficiary of a life insurance policy, it means she wanted YOU to have the money from the policy, which is different from inheriting a portion of her estate. So, if it comes to it, take it as a sign of your grandmother wanting you to be taken care of financially, at least a little bit, and doing something about it to insure that you are. Let everyone else wrangle over the estate and will. Start your own self a nest egg.

[silverthorne.livejournal.com]

...that's about what my boss lady said.

Well, at this point, if it's money coming to me, I'll likely toss it in a savings account anyway until I get my own head straight on it. I've got several reasons for being leery about it, including family politics and the fact that since I've pretty much avoided that side of the fmaily for well over a decade, I don't really feel I should be getting money.

Of course, all that ties into my mom trying to sue survivors of dead family members (that she'd quit talking to and was actually not on good terms with), more than once, when they didn't leave her what she thought was 'her fair share', either in estate or insurance leavings.

So yeah, feel weird and not-quite-right accepting anything--intentions of my grandmother not-with-standing. Just something I have to work through, I guess.