Good. And thanks for letting us know what steps you're taking.
And also for your phrase "Counsellor SHOPPING" as well. So very many people forget that their therapist is supposed to be working FOR them, to their good. If the personality fit is bad, then you'll get no good from all of their education, but if you can listen to them, and if you can genuinely feel that they're listening to, and hearing you, then you can get worlds better just by talking it out with someone who has no investment in being your friend, and whose feelings are not on the line.
That's how I found it, and that's how Dominus found it too. I recommend making a list of things in your life and personality that are non-negotiable subjects before you begin talking with doctors and therapists. In my case, I had to be sure that the therapist was not going to have problems with my bisexuality, my paganism, or my polyamorous lifestyle, because none of those things were on the table for discussion. So I had to ask about her opinion on all those things before I even decided to work with her. I don't want my shrink's hangups getting in the way of MY healing, you know?
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Date: 2010-07-20 01:46 pm (UTC)And also for your phrase "Counsellor SHOPPING" as well. So very many people forget that their therapist is supposed to be working FOR them, to their good. If the personality fit is bad, then you'll get no good from all of their education, but if you can listen to them, and if you can genuinely feel that they're listening to, and hearing you, then you can get worlds better just by talking it out with someone who has no investment in being your friend, and whose feelings are not on the line.
That's how I found it, and that's how Dominus found it too.
I recommend making a list of things in your life and personality that are non-negotiable subjects before you begin talking with doctors and therapists. In my case, I had to be sure that the therapist was not going to have problems with my bisexuality, my paganism, or my polyamorous lifestyle, because none of those things were on the table for discussion. So I had to ask about her opinion on all those things before I even decided to work with her. I don't want my shrink's hangups getting in the way of MY healing, you know?