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silverthorneBut I can't help it...well, I can...but I need to vent...
*sigh...*
All right...keep in mind I like to help out people where I can.
Mate and I have a friend who has been ill--she has had cancer, which despite operations has a really good chance of coming back, and a really bad weight problem which is only partially due to her diet (she tends to favor fried, sugary junk food, even though she's supposedly on some sort of doctor restricted diet). She also has a less than exciting marriage. Once every four years she and her husband come to odds on something...and it can be pretty earth shattering.
We haven't spoken with her in about three months--not uncommon, but it really doesn't help us know what's going on with her.
Mate gets a call last Thursday from said friend. Friend sounds upset, seems a bit distracted, and won't tell mate what's up on the phone. All she asks is if she can come to our house to stay for awhile. Mate, sensing trouble, agrees--no problem, we'll let you stay for as long as you want, etc etc etc. I of course agree--friends in need are always welcomed in the house.
Okay, so obviously, something bad is going on. We spend from Thursday night until Tuesday evening, when Mate went and retrieved friend, wondering what's wrong. Did friend and husband have a really bad row? Is the cancer back? Is she dying? Did her son get killed? Is she getting a divorce? Are they going bankrupt? What?
Come to find out friend is simply going stir crazy and wants a change of scenery...bad enough that she's happily going on about 'running away to San Francisco' because the house is boring, her husband (who has been waiting on her hand and foot this whole time) is boring, and she's just...well...bored.
......?!!
So, let me get this straight, lady. You get us all worked up and worried that something completely awful is happening to you because you're restless? And now you have an open invite to stay at our house for as long as you like because of this...? (sorry, but to break etiquette and suddenly give her a time limit is a bit rude).
I'm not angry about this, really.
Well, all right, I am angry. We're turning our house and our lives upside down to accommodate this woman for who knows how long because she can't find a way to entertain herself while she's at home. And she'll be doing about the same thing at our house that she does at hers--sit, eat, watch TV and be alone for most of the day because, well, dammit it, me and mate have to work.
I can understand a call of "Help, I'm so bored, can we get together and do something so I don't go out of my mind?". I can understand being asked to arrange a road-trip or short vacation for the same reason. I can understand a lot of things, but not what just happened.
And we have no idea when she'll be going home.
Like I said, I may be coming across like an asshole bitch but...ARGH!
*sigh...*
All right...keep in mind I like to help out people where I can.
Mate and I have a friend who has been ill--she has had cancer, which despite operations has a really good chance of coming back, and a really bad weight problem which is only partially due to her diet (she tends to favor fried, sugary junk food, even though she's supposedly on some sort of doctor restricted diet). She also has a less than exciting marriage. Once every four years she and her husband come to odds on something...and it can be pretty earth shattering.
We haven't spoken with her in about three months--not uncommon, but it really doesn't help us know what's going on with her.
Mate gets a call last Thursday from said friend. Friend sounds upset, seems a bit distracted, and won't tell mate what's up on the phone. All she asks is if she can come to our house to stay for awhile. Mate, sensing trouble, agrees--no problem, we'll let you stay for as long as you want, etc etc etc. I of course agree--friends in need are always welcomed in the house.
Okay, so obviously, something bad is going on. We spend from Thursday night until Tuesday evening, when Mate went and retrieved friend, wondering what's wrong. Did friend and husband have a really bad row? Is the cancer back? Is she dying? Did her son get killed? Is she getting a divorce? Are they going bankrupt? What?
Come to find out friend is simply going stir crazy and wants a change of scenery...bad enough that she's happily going on about 'running away to San Francisco' because the house is boring, her husband (who has been waiting on her hand and foot this whole time) is boring, and she's just...well...bored.
......?!!
So, let me get this straight, lady. You get us all worked up and worried that something completely awful is happening to you because you're restless? And now you have an open invite to stay at our house for as long as you like because of this...? (sorry, but to break etiquette and suddenly give her a time limit is a bit rude).
I'm not angry about this, really.
Well, all right, I am angry. We're turning our house and our lives upside down to accommodate this woman for who knows how long because she can't find a way to entertain herself while she's at home. And she'll be doing about the same thing at our house that she does at hers--sit, eat, watch TV and be alone for most of the day because, well, dammit it, me and mate have to work.
I can understand a call of "Help, I'm so bored, can we get together and do something so I don't go out of my mind?". I can understand being asked to arrange a road-trip or short vacation for the same reason. I can understand a lot of things, but not what just happened.
And we have no idea when she'll be going home.
Like I said, I may be coming across like an asshole bitch but...ARGH!
