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THE UNCOMFORTABLE SURVEY
(let's see if you can get through it, if not, you're too scared about your past)
Longest relationship?
A full decade.
Shortest?
Three days.
Did the last boyfriend/girlfriend tell you they love you?
Yes. Of course, I suspect that they did not understand what that word really means.
Have you ever liked someone so much that it hurt?
Several people from when I was 13 until about mid-twenties when I realized that was not a fun thing to be doing to myself.
Have you ever made a boyfriend or girlfriend cry?
Not intentionally. I've had tears used on me for emotional blackmail purposes, though.
Are you happier single or in a relationship?
Right now, I'm happy being single. When it was good, I enjoyed that, too.
Have you ever been cheated on?
Does having an engagement ring sized on your finger then given to 'the other woman' you don't know about count? Then, yes.
What is your favorite thing about the opposite sex?
Um...depends on which one it is. I tend to 'favor' individual things on individual people.
Have you ever had your heart broken?
I think that's pretty normal for anyone who's had more than one relationship. The real question is; did you recover, or are you still wounded from it?
When was it last broken?
200...3, when I first started wising up to what my relationship was really like, and the kind of person my chosen partner really was inside.
Talk to any of your exes?
I only know where one of them is, and since we work in the same place, I'm polite and greet her with a smile in the hallway. Other than that, nope.
If you could go back in time would you change things to where you could still be with [your] ex?
...Other than Kon? No.
Do you have any feelings for any of your ex's?
Not really. Not any more, anyway. Water under the bridge. Well, okay, I miss Kon. But then, we stayed friends afterward, so...
Any of your ex's feel the same way?
See above for Kon. Most of the others, I have no idea. Current ex? I know she's told other folks that I'm irresponsible, moody, depressed, suicidal, need someone to take care of me, never did any work, never took care of the pets, etc...Funny thing is? No one believes her. I wonder why....
Do you believe that you are a good boyfriend or girlfriend?
I'm human. Which means I'll be a good girlfriend to the best of my ability, but I'm going to screw up every once in a while. As long as there's an honest chance to work it out, though, it's all good.
Have you dated people who were not good to you?
Three out of...seven. Of course, I'm answering with an eye towards what I knew after the breakups. Fifty-fifty. Not too bad.
Have you dated someone older then you?
Twice. Both were 9 years older (and female).
Do you believe everyone deserves another chance?
Depends on what I'm forgiving them for. I can say that if you're on drugs, an alcoholic, an abuser, or put my engagement ring on another girl's finger, you've pretty much blown your chances.
Believe in love at first sight?
In a Russian roulette sort of way. IE: For some folks it works. For me, the slower you go, the better is seems to work out.
Ever dated two people at once?
I'm too lazy (and monogamous) to keep up that kind of pace and amount of juggling of people. ;)
Do you want to get married?
To the right guy, yeah.
Do you want to say anything to any of your exe's?
If I haven't already said it, it doesn't need to be said.
Ever dated one of your friend's ex's?
Nope.
Ever liked someone else's boyfriend or girlfriend?
Yes. Does that mean I did anything? Other than in one instance where everyone knew what was going on and agreed to it, and another where I thought the guy had broken up with his girl? Nope. Not that kind of girl. I wouldn't want it done to me; not going to do it to someone else if I know what's going on.
(let's see if you can get through it, if not, you're too scared about your past)
Longest relationship?
A full decade.
Shortest?
Three days.
Did the last boyfriend/girlfriend tell you they love you?
Yes. Of course, I suspect that they did not understand what that word really means.
Have you ever liked someone so much that it hurt?
Several people from when I was 13 until about mid-twenties when I realized that was not a fun thing to be doing to myself.
Have you ever made a boyfriend or girlfriend cry?
Not intentionally. I've had tears used on me for emotional blackmail purposes, though.
Are you happier single or in a relationship?
Right now, I'm happy being single. When it was good, I enjoyed that, too.
Have you ever been cheated on?
Does having an engagement ring sized on your finger then given to 'the other woman' you don't know about count? Then, yes.
What is your favorite thing about the opposite sex?
Um...depends on which one it is. I tend to 'favor' individual things on individual people.
Have you ever had your heart broken?
I think that's pretty normal for anyone who's had more than one relationship. The real question is; did you recover, or are you still wounded from it?
When was it last broken?
200...3, when I first started wising up to what my relationship was really like, and the kind of person my chosen partner really was inside.
Talk to any of your exes?
I only know where one of them is, and since we work in the same place, I'm polite and greet her with a smile in the hallway. Other than that, nope.
If you could go back in time would you change things to where you could still be with [your] ex?
...Other than Kon? No.
Do you have any feelings for any of your ex's?
Not really. Not any more, anyway. Water under the bridge. Well, okay, I miss Kon. But then, we stayed friends afterward, so...
Any of your ex's feel the same way?
See above for Kon. Most of the others, I have no idea. Current ex? I know she's told other folks that I'm irresponsible, moody, depressed, suicidal, need someone to take care of me, never did any work, never took care of the pets, etc...Funny thing is? No one believes her. I wonder why....
Do you believe that you are a good boyfriend or girlfriend?
I'm human. Which means I'll be a good girlfriend to the best of my ability, but I'm going to screw up every once in a while. As long as there's an honest chance to work it out, though, it's all good.
Have you dated people who were not good to you?
Three out of...seven. Of course, I'm answering with an eye towards what I knew after the breakups. Fifty-fifty. Not too bad.
Have you dated someone older then you?
Twice. Both were 9 years older (and female).
Do you believe everyone deserves another chance?
Depends on what I'm forgiving them for. I can say that if you're on drugs, an alcoholic, an abuser, or put my engagement ring on another girl's finger, you've pretty much blown your chances.
Believe in love at first sight?
In a Russian roulette sort of way. IE: For some folks it works. For me, the slower you go, the better is seems to work out.
Ever dated two people at once?
I'm too lazy (and monogamous) to keep up that kind of pace and amount of juggling of people. ;)
Do you want to get married?
To the right guy, yeah.
Do you want to say anything to any of your exe's?
If I haven't already said it, it doesn't need to be said.
Ever dated one of your friend's ex's?
Nope.
Ever liked someone else's boyfriend or girlfriend?
Yes. Does that mean I did anything? Other than in one instance where everyone knew what was going on and agreed to it, and another where I thought the guy had broken up with his girl? Nope. Not that kind of girl. I wouldn't want it done to me; not going to do it to someone else if I know what's going on.
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